“To thine own self be true”
– I’m sure we’ve all heard these adages. Especially when we feel repressed or if we feel put down. There’s something people forgot to tell you though.
“Be different! Just be prepared to be lonely half the time.”
Especially if you’ve moved and you’re trying to make friends, you’ll find that people don’t trust what’s different because it’s unfamiliar. This is one of the reasons I loved working in a restaurant. Everyone there was different, so there was no judgement. Or if there was it was by people you could tell were more insecure than you.
It’s easier to “fit in” (become a cookie cut-out), because then you’re accepted.
There’s another problem with that though.. Because then you don’t accept yourself. Trying to make yourself fit into a space where you’re too different is like asking your feet to be smaller to fit a pair of shoes. It just doesn’t happen.
Something else people don’t tell you. It takes a helluva lot of courage to be able to stand up to the consistent pressure of being told to fit in and to succeed in spite of it. Courage and acceptance. Acceptance of yourself, and that the “others” who do “fit in” are also different.
Everyone is different from you, and it’s not a bad thing. It just is.
If you feel so inclined, share a story of how you were different. Positive or otherwise, I’d love to hear some perspective!